conceptualisation

Focus on meanings not events

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Couple with two small children looking stressed over money

So many clients are invested in seeing their childhood as “normal”.  This is especially true of clients whose upbringing encouraged the denial or repression of inconvenient feelings.  Yet if we are to help them, especially with their adult attachment relationships, our core task is helping them recognise and stop projections of childhood assumptions & coping … Read more

Why broken trust requires new rules for therapy

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As relationship therapists, we strive to be even-handed and explore each partner’s contribution to the dynamics and difficulties that affect their relationship. However, when it comes to dealing with infidelity, I would argue that those rules don’t work very well. At least initially, it’s essential that the therapy is more focused on one person than … Read more